“There comes a time when you ought to start doing what you want. Take a job that you love. You will jump out of bed in the morning. I think you are out of your mind if you keep taking jobs that you don’t like because you think it will look good on your resume. Isn’t that a little like saving up sex for your old age?”Warren Buffet
Can you really have a job that you actually love?
Ever since I can remember, I wanted to be a writer. But, for years, I didn’t do anything about it.
Deep down, I didn’t think I could be a writer. Everyone knows you can’t make money writing books, right?
I knew there were people doing it, but I thought they were special snowflakes. They obviously had something I didn’t.
They were more talented than me. Had a secret trust fund stashed away somewhere. Were at the right place at the right time and a publisher offered them a deal on the spot.
You know, all the excuses we made up in our head when we’re too scared to pursue our purpose and passion.
If you think the people you admire are special, you’re off the hook. You can go back to playing it safe. It’s not your fault your dream isn’t coming true. You just don’t have [insert special excuse].
But, there are a few things that the people who have a job they love have in common. They’re the the secret sauce that makes them succeed when so many others fail.
Curious? Here are what the people who follow their purpose and passion do that you don’t:
1. Surround Yourself With Positive People
People who pursue their calling don’t have Negative Nancies in their lives.
Sure, they meet people who tell them they don’t have what it takes to get their dream job and fulfil their life purpose. But they don’t listen to them. They don’t hang out with them often. They don’t allow them in their close circles of family and friends.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend your time with”.
If you hang with people who think hating their jobs is the norm and don’t believe they can ever switch careers, their negative mentality will rub off on you.
The opposite is true, too. If surround yourself with people who have a job they love, you’ll start thinking it’s possible for you, too.
Don’t know anyone who’s following their purpose? Join a club. Or a Facebook group. Go to networking events. Get yourself out there and you’ll find your tribe.
2. Build A Growth Mindset
If you don’t believe you can have a job you love, you’ll never take the first step to make it happen.
And it’s so easy to believe you can’t do it. From an early age, we’ve been told dreams are for dreamers. In real life, you go to school, get a job – any job -, and thank your lucky stars you get a paycheck at the end of every month.
The bigger the paycheck, the better. Your worth is measured on your net worth, how big your house is, and how many Jimmy Choos you have in your closet.
The worst part? Even when you get there, you still feel miserable. Fancy shoes and a mansion in Malibu don’t bring you happiness and fulfilment. Dedicating your life to doing what you love does.
But how do you unlearn years of conditioning that only special snowflakes can pursue their life purpose and do what they love?
Think of someone who’s doing what you’d love to do. If they can do it, it means it’s possible for you, too.
Read their biographies. Listen to inspiring podcasts. Take a self-help course. Hire a coach. Hang out with people who are making their dreams come true (yep, that again!).
The more you feed your brain with inspirational success stories, the sooner you’ll start to believe it’s possible for you, too.
3. Align Your Action With Your Purpose
Think of the big players in the industry you want to enter. They didn’t get to the top because they said they were gonna pursue their dreams and then binge watched Stranger Things on Netflix.
They followed through on when they said they were gonna do. That’s the next step. Align your actions with your purpose. Figure out what you need to do to make it happen and put it in your calendar. Then do it.
Turn off your notification. Tell your friend you will call her back in a couple of hours. Don’t let anything distract you.
You only have one life. Use it to fulfill your dreams, not what everyone else expects of you.
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Over to you, now. What’s the secret to your success and what helped you get started on fulfilling your life purpose? Share your story in the comments below.