You cannot change reality, but you can control the manner in which you look at things. Your attitude is under your own control. Weed out the negative and focus on the positive!
When I first moved to London, I got a job as the personal assistant of an upcoming beauty and fashion influencer.
I’d spend my days testing and reviewing Korean skincare products, helping out at photoshoots in 5 star hotels, and being driven around the city in limousines. It was a dream job and I was enjoying every second of it.
Until brands started knocking on our doors…
Back when we started, the mission was to educate women about the wonders of Korean skincare, so they could look and feel their best.
Now, it was all about advertising whatever the brands sent our way. Take a few beautiful shots, reword the press release in a catchy caption, and post it on Instagram to a landslide of likes.
I hated every second of it. This isn’t what I had signed up for.
All those free goodies and trips in limos couldn’t make up for the fact that I wasn’t doing meaningful work. I wanted to help people, not sell them stuff they didn’t need (and some of it wasn’t even good!).
I was totally out of alignment and compromising on my values. And yet, I stayed out of loyalty. This influencer had taken a chance on me and given me my first job in London. How could I leave her?
I hoped if I stayed, things would change. But every day, I felt more and more resentful. My mood darkened. I stopped going out with my friends. Even the quality of work I was producing had gone down.
When you hate your job, it has a ripple effect on the rest of your life. But not all of us can quit point blank. Unless you have savings or a family willing to support you, you may have to suck it up for a little bit longer.
In the meantime, here’s how you can stay positive when you hate your job and feel totally unfulfilled:
How To Stay Positive When You Hate Your Work
Just because you hate what you’re doing, it doesn’t mean you’re wasting away your life. Any job offers opportunities for growth and happiness. You just have to know where to look. Here’s how:
Go All In
The last few months as an influencer’s assistant, I totally slacked on the job. I didn’t think the tasks I had made any difference, so I procrastinated and then rushed to get it all done. Needless to say, I didn’t do my best work.
If I could go back, I’d do it all differently. I’d go all in. Share my ideas. Ask for new projects and responsibilities. Get feedback on how to improve. Find out new ways to contribute.
When you fully commit to your job and give it your all, you’ll create new opportunities for growth. You’ll learn new skills and build a reputation as a top performer that’ll help you immensely in whatever you decide to do next.
Reframe Your Expectations
Truth bomb: it’s not your job’s job to make you happy.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for doing work you love. Heck, my job is to teach women how to discover their life purpose and turn it into a business, so they can feel fulfilled every single day.
But a job can’t bring you happiness. Just like a killer pair of Jimmy Choos or a driving a Bentley can’t.
You can’t rely on external things to make you happy. Happiness is an inside job.
Heck, I absolutely adore my job, but there are days when the work itself is dull, boring, and repetitive. It certainly doesn’t make me happy to edit photos for Instagram or filing my taxes.
What makes me happy is knowing that I’m doing what’s best for my business, that these boring tasks are helping me achieve my purpose.
If you hate your job, you can still find happiness in doing the best job you can. It’s your attitude and how you show up that matter.
If you know you’re in the wrong job, but don’t have the skills or qualifications for your dream career, this is the perfect time to get them.
These days, there are plenty of part-time, night, weekend, and online programmes you can fit around your 9-5 job. Some even allow you to learn at your own pace, so you won’t find juggling work with study too overwhelming.
Plus, going back to school will give you a newfound appreciation for your job. Rather than the thing that’s standing in your way, it’s giving you a paycheck to fund your dreams.
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Start A Side Hustle
If you need a creative outlet or have an idea for a business you’d like to test, start a side hustle.
A side hustle gives you the opportunity to test the waters and see if your idea has potential before going all in. Or you can keep it as a hobby, a free-time activity that brings you joy and excitement.
I started my old beauty blog in my free time without any thought of monetizing it. I just wanted a place where I could share my passion with like-minded people. But over the years, it got so popular, it naturally turned into a successful skin coaching business.
P.S. If you have an idea for a side hustle, but want to make sure it’s the right one before getting started, book a FREE Discovery Session here.
Create An Exit Plan
If your work environment is so toxic it’s starting to seriously affect your mental health, it’s time to quit.
To make it easier for yourself, create an exit plan. Decide when you’re going to hand in your notice and start looking for other jobs a little in advance. This’ll give you plenty of time to land a new job so you won’t suffer any income loss.
Just don’t put it off hoping things will get better. If they haven’t improved until now, it’s highly unlikely they will anytime soon.
Over to you, now. How do you stay positive when you hate your job? Share your tips and experience in the comments below.