“What the heck am I doing?! I’m so NOT ready for this.”
I had that thought the first time I did a session with a practice client. I knew that coaching was my calling, but I did NOT feel ready to get started.
In truth, I doubted I ever would be. When are you finally read to do that thing that scares you (and excites you at the same time)?
You’re wondering if you should get more qualifications, practice more, have more money in the bank to take the leap. Wait until that perfect moment when all the stars align and you finally feel ready to do this.
I hate to break it to you, but…
There’s no perfect moment and you’re never gonna be ready.
Why Do You Wait Until You Feel Ready?
If there’s never a perfect time, why do you wait until you’re ready? Why put off the things that you know will make you happy?
Here’s the truth: your brain is designed to keep you safe. It thinks that anything new (whether good or bad) is dangerous.
If you believe you’re not ready, you’ll never take the leap. You’ll stay stuck in your comfort zone, right where your brain wants you.
Because if you don’t start, you can’t fail. You can’t make mistakes. You can’t get hurt.
But, it still hurts, isn’t it? Knowing that your dreams may never come true…
There’s a bigger danger than failing. It’s staying stuck in your comfort zone. Watching your life pass you. Feeling the pain of regret for not even giving your dreams a chance.
How much longer can you put up with that?
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How To Take Action When You Don’t Feel Ready
Reframe Negative Beliefs
Let’s start by getting clear on what your Inner Mean Girl is telling you. Why does she think you’re not ready?
Maybe you want to be a coach, but you feel like you don’t have enough experience. Think about the struggles you’ve overcome. I became a life purpose and business coach because, for years, I struggled to find my life purpose. In the meantime, I was mentoring my friends about how to start a business.
I’m coaching women on something I overcame myself – and I had started doing it years before I became a qualified coach! Life experience counts, too ladies.
Think about the skills you have, too. Maybe you’re a good listener (essential for a coach). Or a good writer (will come in handy when you have to write those sales pages).
Whatever it is you want to do, I guarantee you: you’re more ready than you give yourself credit for.
And if you really aren’t, you can always learn. No one is born knowing how to do all the things. This is why we have schools, books, and coaches.
Next time your Inner Mean Girl tells you you’re not ready yet, reframe it:
“I’m ready because…”
“I already have enough experience because…”
“I don’t know how to do this yet, but I can learn.”
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Take Imperfect Action
You don’t need to have it all figured out to get started. You just need to take the first step.
What’s the first small step you can take to get closer to your goal? Maybe you can research some courses you can take to learn a new skill. Or you can buy the domain name for your website. Or just let a friend know you plan to start a podcast so they can hold you accountable.
Don’t worry if it’s not perfect. Nothing ever is. If you make the wrong choice, you can always course correct. If you pick the wrong course, you can ask for a refund and pick a different one. If you won’t like your domain name 6 months from now, you can get a new one.
Mistakes won’t kill your dreams. Not taking action will.
Take a small, imperfect step every day and before you know it, you’ll be on top of the staircase.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but, fear will ALWAYS be there.
In her book Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert talk about how creativity (and your dreams) can ONLY coexist alongside fear. They’re conjoined twins.
Why? Because following your dreams requires vulnerability and putting yourself in situations where the outcome is uncertain. Fear hates that.
Instead of fighting fear, accept it’ll always come along with you. Just don’t let it drive:
Dearest fear: Creativity and I are about to go on a trip. I understand you’ll be joining us, because you always do. I acknowledge that you believe you have an important job to do. But I will also be doing my job, which is to work hard and stay focused. And Creativity will be doing its job, which is to remain stimulating and inspiring. There’s plenty of room in this vehicle for all of us, but understand this: Creativity and I are the only ones who will be taking any decisions along the way. You’re not allowed to suggest detours. You’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. Dude, you’re not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, you are absolutely forbidden to drive.Elizabeth Gilbert
You can substitute creativity with your dream. Figure out what that first small, imperfect step is, take fear by the hand, and do it anyway.
That’s the true secret to success.