You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.
Are you ready for a career change, but are freaking out about making the transition?
Is your resume a hodgepodge of all kinds of random jobs and you’re worried no one will take seriously?
Are you a multipassionate soul who wants to do all the things and have no idea how they can all fit together?
I hear ya. The path that got me to my current dream career is so random, I couldn’t see it how it could all work out..
I thought all these random jobs were a liability. Turns out, they were my greatest asset.
My Random Career Path
When I was little, I wanted to be a teacher. I’ve always enjoyed learning and passing my knowledge onto others and see how they use it to improve their lives.
I studied to become a teacher and even had some work experience in a couple of schools, but it soon became clear it wasn’t my calling. I didn’t want to deal with school politics and wasting my time on useless paperwork.
My dream shattered, I had no idea what to do next. I took a year to figure it out and… fell in the deep throes of depression. It took me a few years to get out of that one. Fun times…
When I got better, I decided to go into the beauty industry. In Senigallia, a tiny town on the Eastern coast of Italy, that meant become a hairdresser. But that soon bored me, too.
It was at this point that I decided to start a skincare blog. I thought it’d be just a hobby, a way to share my passion about skincare (which I love a lot more than hair…). People liked it and, before I knew it, I had amassed a large and loyal following.
If people loved my writing so much, I thought, why not turn it into a career. I bought a one-way ticket to London and became a freelance writer. I started writing for other blogs and online magazines, but the first few months were hard and I couldn’t make enough to support myself in such an expensive city.
So I took a job as the personal assistant of a rich lady in Central London. I had a brief stint working for a budding PR company that paid on commission. I even got a gig at an art gallery…
After a couple of years of this life, I realised freelance writing wasn’t for me. I went back to my love for beauty and became a skin coach to help women take better care of their skin.
I felt like I was living my dream. What could be better than this?
That’s when it hit me: what was even better was teaching women how to do what I did. No, not skin coaching. Living their dream. Figure out what their life purpose is and turn it into a career.
I bought the domain for The Treasures Within and the rest is history…
It took me more than 15 years of doing all the things to find out what I really wanted to do with my life – and even then I’m also doing other things on the side (you can’t tie us multipassionate soul to just one thing).
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Connecting The Dots
When I started my beauty blog 11 years ago, I had absolutely no idea what to do with my life. It never occurred to me I could be a life purpose coach – I didn’t even know such a thing existed!
Yet, looking back, the was the first step that led me here…
Starting that blog reconnected me with my passion for writing, something I had abandoned to focus on a “serious” career…
It gave me the confidence to pursue writing as a career and realise how much I love being my own boss and running my own business.
So what if freelance writing wasn’t my calling? My sting as a freelance writer made me realise the reason why I love writing: to help and inspire women to be their best self, in and out – not write a press release on why that moisturiser is the bomb (when I know too well it isn’t).
When that career fell through, I went back to my blog and used my writing skills to help women take care of their skin. I loved to see how their confidence blossomed as their skin improved.
But something still wasn’t right. Women were telling me they had spent the last few years hiding at home, too ashamed to pursue their dream career while their face was ravaged by acne.
But even after their skin healed, their newfound confidence wasn’t enough to make them take the leap. They had tucked away their dreams for so long, they didn’t even know what they truly wanted to do with their life anymore.
That’s how it all started… a hobby beauty blog set up a chain of events that helped me figure out my life purpose and create my dream job.
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Follow Your Curiosity
I see so many women staying stuck in a job they hate because they don’t have it all figured out.
They think they can only transition when they’re 100% sure of what they want to do with their life, have a plan of action to get there, and the guarantee they’ll be successful.
Sorry to break your bubble, but that’s NOT how it works.
Ask any person who’s doing what they love and they’ll tell you a story like mine. They had no idea what they were doing when they started or where the road will lead. They just followed their curiosity.
Even though I’ve changed career more times than I care to count, I never had a well thought out plan on how to make the transition. I just had a passion or interest in something and followed it to see where it would lead me next.
There have been dead-ends and wrong turns along the way, but they were all part of the journey. Every wrong turn helped me figure out what I didn’t want in my career, so that I could pursue what I did want.
FYI, I’m not saying that you can’t or shouldn’t get clear on your career before you get started. Heck, I help women do just that. I have an entire coaching programme that helps women get clear on their purpose, so they don’t have to take wrong turns for 11 years to figure out what to do with their life.
But, at some point, you have to take that first step. You have to be ok with not knowing everything before you take the leap. You have to trust that first step will lead you in the right direction.
And if it turns out you took a wrong turn, that’s ok, too. Nothing in life is permanent. Just because you realise you don’t like to be a web designer after all, it doesn’t mean you can’t change and do something else.
Truth bomb: human beings are meant to evolve. Your life purpose when you’re 20 may not be the same as when you’re 30. That’s ok.
Being a life purpose coach feels right – now. I know this is what I’m meant to do right now. But if I ever get bored with it, I’ll follow my curiosity wherever it leads me next. It never set me astray.
Don’t be afraid of quitting what doesn’t work for you. Changing your mind about what to do with your life isn’t a failure. Being stuck doing something that makes you miserable is.
Over to you, now. Have you ever put off making a big career change because you didn’t have it all figured out? Let me know in the comments below.