Ditch the dream and be a doer, not a dreamer, whether or not you know what your ‘passion’ might be. The truth is, it doesn’t matter. You don’t have to know. You just have to keep moving forward. You just have to keep doing something, seizing the next opportunity, staying open to trying something new.Shonda Rhimes
Do you ever feel like the passion train passed you by?
Everyone else seems to have it all figured out. They knew from birth they were gonna become doctors/open a restaurant/whatever as soon as they grew up.
Or had an inkling about what they loved. You know, spent all their spare time knitting jumpers they now sell on Etsy. Or had a knack for putting together killer outfits, a career in fashion seemed like the logical thing to do. Or dished out nutrition advice to everyone who listened and slowly made the transition to coaching.
But you? You don’t have a clue what you love. Not the slightest inkling.
You’ve spent your entire life following the traditional path. Going to school, getting a job, maybe tying the knot and having kids.
No one ever asked you what you’re passionate about. You just focused on getting good grades, a job to pay the bills, life…
And now you’re stuck in a job you hate. You want to quit, but you don’t know what to do next. So, you’re sticking it out, hoping to stumble on your big passion one of these days. It must be somewhere, right?
What if I told you this passion thing is just a myth? One that is putting unnecessary pressure on you and getting in the way of living your life purpose and doing the work you’re meant to do in this world.
Here are some common myths about finding and living your passion you need to stop believing right now:
Myth #1: Finding Your Passion Is A Result
Do you ever feel like you have to do something to discover your passion? “If only I had the money/resources/time to do this, I’ll finally find my passion.”
Passion isn’t the result of a specific action. It’s a journey. An experience. A process of discovery that evolves all the time.
It usually starts with a spark of curiosity. Something spikes your interest. You decide to explore it more. Maybe take a class. Join a club. Read a book about it.
Sometimes, you discover this new interest just isn’t for you. But other times… You get so engrossed in it, it develops into a full-blown passion. That’s when you hit the jackpot.
Myth #2: One Day, You Will Miraculously Stumble Upon Your Passion
Are you just waiting for your passion to pop up out of nowhere one day?
Maybe your passion has been lying under your bed all along… Maybe lightning will strike you and you’ll know what your passion is. Maybe as you watch TV, your fave character will say something that’ll make you realise on the spot what you’re supposed to do with your life.
Or you could just be waiting all your life for something that will never happen…
Don’t wait for your passion to fall from the sky. Live your life. Explore your interests. Do the things that make you happy.
That’s how you discover your passion.
Need more help finding your passions? Click on the image below to download the Passion Finder Worksheet to find your passions and start living them now.
Myth #3: Following Your Passion Means Leaving Your Day Job
Are you putting off finding your passion and purpose because you can’t quit your day job yet?
I get it. There’s so much pressure right now to drop everything and follow a dream… but how do you pay the rent and put food on the table?! Girl’s gotta eat- and have a holiday or two…
I’m all for following your dreams no matter what – in a responsible way. Keep your job while you find a way to transition to what you truly want to do.
When I discovered my life purpose was helping spiritual women find their calling, I didn’t close down my skincare business on the spot.
Instead, I hired a virtual assistant to help me with social media and admin tasks, so I could have more time to work on The Treasures Within and still keep my monthly income coming in. (I still run that business, by the way).
You can build your drop-shipping business on the side. Ask your boss if you can run mini-workshops at the office. Or take an evening course to get the skills you need in your new career.
When your side hustle replaces your entire salary, you’re ready to take the leap and go full-time.
Myth #4: Following Your Passion And Doing What You Love Is Selfish
Do you ever think, “who am I to follow my passion when everyone else is stuck in a job they hate? What right do I have to be happy when everyone else is miserable?”
You’d feel guilty coming home after a day of work that felt more like play when your partner was stuck in a cubicle, doing a job he hates to help you pay the bills. Or raving about the success of your coaching retreat when your friends are complaining about their long commute, never-ending paperwork, and soul-sucking office politics.
But ask yourself this: will giving up on your dreams change their situation or make them happier? Nope. It’ll just make you unhappy, too.
You know what could help your friends? Following your dreams and doing work you love.
I’m not making this up. A study done by Harvard researchers found out that when a person becomes happy, their close friends have a 25% chance of becoming happier!
If you want to help the people around you, don’t join them. Inspire them.
Myth #5: Once You Find Your Passion, You Have To Stick With It For Life
How the heck do you know what you want to do for the rest of your life? Heck, you’re not even sure what you’re gonna do tomorrow.
Society puts a lot of pressure on you to pick a career and stick to it forever. But what if once you embark on it, you decide it’s not for you? What if you picked the wrong passion?
I’m giving you permission to switch. I did it all the time. I started off my career as a teacher, then had a brief stint as a hairdresser, tried my hand at freelance writing, started doing skin coaching…
You can call me indecisive. But every career helped me figure out what I truly wanted for my life and brought me closer to the life purpose I’m living now. Maybe one day my purpose will change and I’ll pivot once again. That’s cool.
You only have one life. Follow your calling wherever it leads you.
P.S. Do you have too many passions and don’t know which one to choose? You can experiment with each one at a time or you can combine them.
The Treasures Within combines my purpose for life coaching with my passions for writing, psychology and beauty.
Yep, I don’t like to choose, either. 😉
Over to you, now. Which myth is stopping you from finding your passions and living your life purpose? Share your thoughts in the comments below.