It’s tempting to think success is all about luck. “If only I could meet Oprah at my local cafe and give her a copy of my book…”
Or money. “If only I had 50K in my bank account, I could finally start my clothing business”.
Or the right tools. “If only I could afford VPS hosting, my traffic would double…”
But then, how do you explain the likes of Richard Branson or J.K. Rowling who began with nothing or very little and ended up becoming billionaires?
Or the spoiled rich brats who have all the advantages, but squander all their resources on failed businesses?
The right tools, money, and luck only play a small part in the success equation. What really matters is mindset.
If you want to be successful and achieve your dreams, you need to become the kind of person who believes it’s possible and does everything it takes to make it happen. Here’s how:
The Success Mindset
Just like limiting beliefs can sabotage your success, empowering ones help you achieve everything you’re dreaming of (and more).
Here are a few empowering beliefs that make up the success mindset:
- Nothing is set in stone: No matter how bad your circumstances are, you can always find a way to turn things around. You can always learn new skills, adopt new beliefs, and change strategies along the way.
- You’re abundant: Believe that you’ll always have everything you need. There’s enough money, success, whatever for everyone. Stop competing, start sharing.
- Be willing to fail: You can’t succeed at anything without making a few mistakes along the way. When something doesn’t go according to plan, use it as feedback. What can you improve or do differently next time?
- Listen to your gut: You already have all the answers. Trust yourself more.
- Don’t be afraid to take risks: Everything you want is outside of your comfort zone. Do something bold, be different from the herd, try that thing that scares you.
- Be grateful: Acknowledge all the positive things in your life. Celebrate your successes. Focus on the positive. Good things are already coming your way.
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How To Be Successful And Achieve Your Goals
Now you have a success mindset, put it into practice. Here’s the three steps you need to take to be successful and achieve all your goals:
Step 1: Set A Smart Goal
Have you lost count of your failed New Year’s Resolutions, too? One of mine is, “I want to get healthier and move my body more.”
The next day, I excitedly don my Lululemon leggings and pink tank top and start walking away to the tune of Leslie Sansone’s DVDs.
A week later, I skip a day. “That’s fine, I’ll exercise again tomorrow.” Two months later, my sneakers are collecting dust on the floor…
What happened here?
The goal was too broad. I set a general intention to improve my health, but I didn’t specify how I was gonna do it.
With a vague goal, it’s easy to get lost and give up. So, set a SMART one instead.
A SMART goal is:
- Specific: What exactly do you want to achieve?
- Measurable: How will you know you’ve accomplished this goal?
- Attainable: Do you have all the tools and resources you need to achieve this goal? If not, can you get them?
- Relevant: Is it a priority in your life right now? What’s your why for doing this?
- Time-oriented: What is the deadline?
When you make it SMART, “I want to get healthier and move my body more” becomes “Starting from 1st January, I will go for a run three times a week, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday mornings before work.”
Let’s break it down:
- Specific: I said exactly what I want to do to move my body more and get healthier.
- Measurable: I selected three specific time slots. If I skip one, I’ll know I’m getting off track.
- Attainable: I already have all the resources I need, like my running shoes.
- Relevant: I want to get healthier so that I have more energy to focus on and grow my business.
- Time-oriented: I want to do this consistently, so instead than a deadline, I set a starting day.
See the difference, now?
Step 2: Find A Mentor
When I started my first business, I had no idea what to do.
Should I build a personal brand or a business brand? Should I be on all social media channels or print business cards and go to networking events? Should I invest in a VA or take that course?
Even when you know what your goal is, the path isn’t always clear. How do you know which one is the right choice?
Get a mentor. A mentor is someone who’s been there and done the exact thing you want to do. They know the mistakes to avoid, the shortcuts to achieve your goals, and the right people to help you out.
Don’t know anyone who can be your real mentor? That’s ok. Most of us don’t. At least, not when we’re starting out.
The solution? Get a virtual mentor. Take an online course. Listen to podcasts. Read a few biographies.
Find someone you admire and devour everything they’ve ever created. Find out as much as you can about their story. Email them to let them know how they’ve inspired you.
Who knows? Maybe they’ll become your mentor in real life, too. 😉
Step 3: Take Action
I hate to break it down to you, but there’s no magic bullet to success.
You can’t use a new hashtag and get 100K followers on Instagram in a week. It’s not enough to have the right agent to become a NYT best-selling author. You don’t sell out your inventory as soon as your new glitter-infused moisturizer goes live on your website.
Success takes longer than that. Way, way longer.
As Maria Hatzistefanis, the founder of beauty brand Rodial, said, “it took me 10 years to become an overnight success.”
Ten years of showing up and doing the work every single day. Even when buyers don’t return your calls, journalists don’t write about your business, and everyone’s telling you you’re wasting your time.
But eventually, something happens. You gain enough momentum, that journalist wants to write about you. That buyer calls you out of the blue to let you know they want to stock your brand at their department store. And everyone congratulates you on your success.
The sooner you start taking action, the sooner you’ll achieve your goal. Think of what the first step is and schedule it in your calendar.
Now, go do it, gorgeous.
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Think of the last time you achieved one of your goals or did. But what did you do that made you succeed? Share your experience in the comments below.