What if You Haven’t Found Your Thing Yet?

what if you haven't found your thing yet
You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. Take it moment by moment, day by day, and trust the process.
Ashley Rachel

So, you haven’t found your thing yet?

You know the thing I’m talking about. Your big, all-encompassing passion. The life purpose you came on this planet to fulfill. The thing you’re going to do for the rest of your life.

Feeling the pressure much?

It’s a lot to put on one person, let alone a young teenager. Seriously, who thought it was a good idea to ask a 16 year old to pick what career to do for the rest of her life?

I don’t know about you, but all I could think about back then was boys and makeup…

I envied those people who knew from the cradle what to do with their life and had their entire future mapped out. I was clearly NOT one of them… What was wrong with me?!

Fast forward 15 years, and I reinvented career more times than I dare to count. Is that flaky? Or just a natural evolution?

Even now that I feel with every fiber of my being that I’ve found my calling, the thought I’ll be doing this forever scares the crap out of me. Forever is a loooooong time to do just one thing…

It’s totally normal.

Whether you really haven’t found your thing, or you’ve found it but are not sure you want to commit forever, here’s what you need to know to clear away your doubts:

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What If I Get My Life Purpose Wrong?

I truly believe I’m on this planet to inspire ambitious and spiritual women to discover their life purpose and do the work they’re meant to do in this world.

But I’d be lying if I told you I don’t have doubts sometimes. After all, there was that time when I thought being a writer was my life purpose. And before that, I was sure I was meant to be a primary school teacher…

Flaky, much? 

And yet, all these things aren’t as unrelated as they seem. Instead than looking at your life purpose in terms of jobs, it helps to look at it in terms of themes.

I wanted to be a primary school teachers to empower students to believe in themselves and hone their natural talents, so they could do the work they wanted to do instead than settling for any job to pay the bills.

I wanted to be a writer so that I could write self-help books and novels that inspire readers to take charge of their own lives and chase their dreams.

The very same thing that I’m doing now through coaching…

Teaching, writing, and coaching are all different ways to fulfill the same purpose.

If you look back at your life, you’ll find similar patterns. Even when you were doing seemingly unrelated things, they all fell under the same theme.

The catch? Sometimes, it’s hard to find these themes and patterns on your own. In my coaching programme, I help my students connect the dots and find the life purpose that lies underneath.

Bottom line: you can’t get your life purpose wrong. Everything is unfolding according to a higher plan. You’re exactly where you need to be right now.

The only mistake is to find your life purpose and willingly decide not to pursue it.

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Related: 5 Questions That’ll Help You Find Your Real Life Purpose

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What If I Don’t Have Just One Purpose?

Some people do have that big, all-encompassing passion. Once they’ve found it, they can happily fulfill their purpose for the rest of their lives.

Other people are wired differently. For them, doing the same thing for the rest of their lives would be the most boring thing ever.

How do I know? I’m one of those people. A multipassionate entrepreneur who wants to do all the things.

Coaching. Writing. Teaching. Running businesses. Designing beautiful things. The list goes on and on.

If you too have more than one passion, you’ve probably been told you’re flaky. Pick one and stick with it.

But to a multipassionate person, that’s like cutting off a limb. You can’t do it.

There’s a better way. Or two. You can either try and combine as many passions in one business (TTW combines my loves for writing, coaching, psychology, and beauty).

Or you can pick a passion to turn into your career now and pursue your other loves in your free time. 

And if a new few years, that business bores you and you want to do something completely different, that’s cool, too. 

As you grow and evolve, it’s totally normal for your passion and purpose to change and evolve, too.

P.S. When your passions change, it feels like your life purpose changes, too. But if you look at the themes and patterns in your life, you’ll likely find your purpose stays the same. It’s the way you’re expressing it through your passions that’s changing.

Related: How To Be Multipassionate Without Looking Flaky

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What If I Change My Mind Every Few Years?

Join the multipassionate club! 

I’ve been a member for a few years and I can tell you, it’s never boring here. 🙂

In the past 15 years, I’ve changed careers more time than I dare to count. I’ve been a personal assistant, a freelance writer, a beauty blogger, a skincare coach….

Every time I start something new, I tell myself this is it. This is my thing.

Until I get bored with it and switch to the next shiny thing…

I used to think I was flaky AF. But looking back, it all makes sense. Every job was a stepping stone to the career I have now. 

If I hadn’t had the courage to admit I was in the wrong job, I never would have found my true life purpose.

Finding your life purpose is like shopping for that elusive little black dress. Sometimes, you have to try on a dozen dresses to find the one that suits your body shape and complements your skin tone. 

If something is the wrong fit, don’t be afraid to ditch it. Something better is waiting for you…

Related: Why It’s Ok To Change Your Mind About What You Want To Do With Your Life

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What If My Purpose Has Nothing To Do With My Job?

In my work, I focus on helping women find their life purpose so they can earn more money doing what they love.

But not everyone’s purpose is tied to work. For some women, becoming a mother and raising children is their life purpose.

Others may be on this planet on a journey of self-discovery, to learn about yourself and grow as a person.

Or your purpose may just be to be kind to everyone and inspires others to do the same.

You don’t have to turn your life purpose in a job. 

You’re not less worthy as a person because your life purpose isn’t to be a big CEO and make millions of dollars.

This world needs each and every one of us to fulfill our life purpose and use our unique gifts and talents to make a difference. Whether at work or in your personal life (or both!), it doesn’t matter.

Are you in?

P.S. You don’t have to turn your life purpose into a job. But I do recommend you find a job you like doing. Life is too stressful when you dread Mondays!

Related: How To Find Your Gifts And Strengths

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What If I Don’t Want To Turn My Purpose Into A Job?

You know what they say: do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.

Well, I’m doing what I love and it’s still a lot of work! I still do tasks that I’d rather not to (hello, social media!) and put in long hours when I’m preparing a launch or putting together a new coaching programme. 

It’s what Mark Manson calls the “shit sandwich”. It doesn’t matter how passionate you are about what you do, every job has its boring and mundane tasks.

And don’t get me started about the pressure. As soon as you turn your passion into your job, you feel a burden to make money ASAP. It’s enough to take all the joy out of it…

I’m a big believer that you should have a job you love. You’re spending 8 hours a day (or more) at work. If it doesn’t bring you any job, the stress and unhappiness will spread to other areas of your life.

But you don’t have to turn your purpose into your day job. If your life purpose is to empower people to eat healthier, you can simply start a blog you update in your free time, cook nutritious meals for your loved ones, or contribute for free to a local magazine. 

The point of finding your life purpose is not to have a trackload of money (that usually is a result of helping as many people as possible).

The point is to live every day with purpose, so you can go to bed at night feeling happy that you’ve spent your time doing what you were meant to do.

Related: 4 Ways To Do What You Love Today

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Need help to find your life purpose? Click on the button below to subscribe to my newsletter and receive the Purpose Finder Worksheet.


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It’s Time To Give Yourself A Break

If you’re stressing out about finding your life purpose or feel like a failure because you don’t know what the heck to do with your life yet, give yourself a break.

It’s ok not to have it all figured out. It’s ok not to want to turn your life purpose into your job. It’s ok to change life purpose as you grow and evolve.

You’re not flawed. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be right now.

Live your life. Find a way to do something you love every day. It’ll all make sense in the end.

Over to you, now. Have you found your thing yet, and if not, how are you dealing with it? Share your experience in the comments below.

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