How do you fight for your dreams when everyone is against you?
I had just told my family I was going to move to London to pursue a career in freelance writing.
“London is a big and dangerous city. You don’t know anyone there. Why not stay here where it’s safe and you’ve got family taking care of you?”, my mum asked.
“Is this a joke?! We all know you don’t have what it takes to make it happen. You’ll just waste your time and money and be back with your tail between your legs in one month,” my sister sneered.
“That’s a nice dream, Giorgia. But dreams don’t come true. You have responsibilities here. You can’t just up and leave to do what you want,” my friends agreed.
What if they were right?
I started doubting myself and my plan. It was a big, scary dream. And I had no idea if I had what it takes to make it happen. What if I failed?
Maybe I should stay, keep playing it safe…
NO. I knew this life too well – and I didn’t like one bit of it.
I was tired of the same routine. Tired of being stressed and snapping up at people all the time. Tired of feeling dead inside.
Deep down, I knew I was meant for more. I felt like my life was passing me by and that, if I didn’t do something now, I would die with my song still inside me.
I couldn’t let that happen. And so I fought. I left. I made it happen. And even if freelance writing didn’t turn out to be my calling, I’m so grateful I took the opportunity to give my dreams a go.
Feeling the same? Don’t give up on your dreams. Fight for them. They only come true if you do:
Here’s how you too can fight for your dreams when everyone is against you:
5 Ways To Start Fighting For Your Dreams Today
1. Get Clear On Your Vision
If you’re not clear on your vision, it’ll be easier for others to tear it apart.
I remember meeting a guy at a friend speed dating event who confidently told me he was about to start his own business.
He raved about the freedom to work whenever he wanted, take time off for a holiday without having to ask permission, and the millions he would make.
But when I asked him what kind of business he was about to start, he mumbled something about an online shop where he would say this and that.
This guy had no clue what business he wanted to start. He didn’t know how to create a website. He had no marketing plan ready.
Every time I asked him a question about his imminent business, I could see his confidence shaking.
Don’t be that guy. Before you start talking about your dream to other people, make sure you have a clear vision in mind.
People will ask you all sorts of questions and point out every possible obstacles in your way. They do it because they love you and don’t want to see you fail.
When you have answers to their questions and doubts, it’s easier for them to get on board.
When I told my family I wanted to move to London to become a freelance writer, I already had a plan.
I knew the writing niche I wanted to break into, the publications I wanted to target, and what articles ideas to pitch.
That made them realise how serious and determined I was. Slowly, they all started to believe in my dreams, too.
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2. Take Daily Action Toward Your Vision
I’ll tell you a secret: visions don’t come true. Actions do.
Don’t believe the hype around The Secret. It’s not enough to visualise yourself living your best life for that to become your new reality.
A vision is just a roadmap to your desired future. But you have to walk that road and take action every single day to get there.
I dreamed for years of becoming a freelance writer. But nothing happened until I booked that one-way ticket to London and started to pitch publications.
Just make sure the action you take is aligned with your goals. Ask yourself:
- What’s the smallest step I can take today to get one step closer to my vision?
- What’s the most pressing challenge I need to overcome to get closer to my goal?
- What did [person you admire] do when she was first starting out?
A note about that last question: find someone you admire who did the same thing you want to do right now. Study what they did in their early stages of their career and copy them. Learning from mentors (even virtual ones) is a sure shortcut to success.
3. Keep Learning And Developing Your Skills
“You can’t be a writer. Sure, you write well, but you have no idea how to market yourself. That’s a crucial skill for writers in this day and age.”
“How are you going to start a business? You don’t know the first thing about sales.”
“You won’t get that promotion. Your communication skills aren’t that strong yet.”
Sometimes, people’s criticism has a point. What do you do when you lack a crucial skill to make your dreams come true?
Simple: you learn it. Just because you don’t know how to do something today, it doesn’t mean you won’t be able to tomorrow.
The road to your dream is paved with challenges. The only way to overcome them is to keep learning new things, keep developing new skills, and keep improving yourself.
Are you up for it?
4. Build Your Tribe
Let’s face it: usually our closest family and friends are the last people to get on board and support us while we fight for our dreams.
As I mentioned earlier, your loved ones want to keep you safe. From risk. From failure. From pain. Can you blame them?
If you don’t get the support you need from your loved ones, it’s time to get out there and create your tribe.
Surrounding yourself with supportive people makes all the difference. They’ll cheer you on when the going gets tough, encourage you to keep going when all you want to do is give up, and give you valuable advice to solve any challenge you encounter along the day.
But where do you find these people?!
Social media – think Facebook group and Instagram – is a good place to start. You can instantly connect with people all over the world who are pursuing your same dreams.
You can also look for networking events and clubs in your area. Find a group on Meetup.com. Take a class.
While you’re building your tribe, don’t underestimate the power of virtual mentors. Read self-help books and biographies. Listen to inspiring podcasts. Watch motivational videos on Youtube.
The more dream-chasers you surround yourself with, the more you start believing it’s possible for you, too.
5. Rest And Recharge
Wait, what? Isn’t this post about how to fight for your dreams? How can you fight when you’re asleep?
Hear me out…
Fighting for your dreams and making them come true is hard. You’ll have to learn new skills, overcome all kinds of challenges, and take powerful action every single day.
It’s easy to burn out. Fast.
That’s where self-care comes in. I’m all for working hard, but do take a few breaks during the day to meditate, read a book, or do whatever relaxes you.
And when your energy starts depleting towards the end of the day, listen to your body and start wrapping things up. You’ve done enough.
Yes, I practice what I preach. I work in chunks of 45 minutes and take the next 15 off to read a book or paint my nails. At 6:30 pm sharp, I turn off my computer, have dinner and start winding down for the day.
When I wake up at 5:30 the next morning, I feel refreshed, have more energy for the task at hand, and am ready to tackle anything.
Working non-stop won’t bring you closer to your dreams. It’ll bring you closer to burnout and a hospital stay.
Over to you now. Are you fighting for your dreams and, if so, how? Share your experience in the comments below.