Why isn’t it happening already?
I’ve always been the impatient kind. It doesn’t matter if I’m starting a new business, writing a book, or creating a new coaching programme, I want it to be done… yesterday. It doesn’t help that everywhere I look I see other women living my dreams.
They already have 3 NYT best-sellers under their belt while I’m sitting here writing the first draft of my book. Or they’re creating amazing coaching retreats that sell out in seconds, while I always seem to be hustling hard during a launch.
Do you ever feel like that, too? Like everyone is smashing their goals quickly while you’re taking forever to get to your next income and business level? It’s so frustrating. And yet…
Truth time: If you haven’t achieved your goal yet, it’s because you haven’t become the person who can achieve it yet. Here’s what I mean:
The Truth About Overnight Success (And Reaching Goals Fast)
In the age of social media where everyone only posts their highlight reels, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that everyone is doing better than you, reaching their goals faster than you, making more money working fewer hours than you.
It’s a lie.
The truth is, success takes time. Those successful entrepreneurs who have the business and lifestyle you dream of didn’t get there overnight.
They may have started years before (Maria Hatzistefanis, author of How To Be An Overnight Success, said it took Rodial, her skincare brand, 10 years to become an overnight success). AND they’ve taken risks you’re still not willing to take – like using their savings to invest in FB ads or approaching a much bigger influencer for a collaboration.
In other words, hustling alone doesn’t get you there. There are people who are working on their business for more than 10 years and are nowhere near reaching the 6-figures mark.
Success happens only when you pair hustling with courage and are willing to push past your fears to take the uncomfortable action you’re still hesitating on.
In other words, you need to become the confident leader who can do what it takes to reach your next level before you can get there.
So, what does becoming the person who can achieve your goals mean?
How To Become The Person Who Can Reach Your Goals Faster
If you haven’t reached your goal yet, there’s something you need to learn, a trait you need to develop, or a habit you need to adopt. Let’s take a closer look at each of them, shall we?
1. What Do You Need To Learn?
Maybe you’re not reaching your goals because there’s a skill you need to master. Let’s say you’ve always hated math and even now you’re running a business, your accounts are a mess. You avoid bookkeeping as much as possible and have no idea how much money goes in and out each month. Numbers may make you uncomfortable, but if you want to go to your next income level, mastering cash flow is a priority.
Or you may be an introvert who’s been building your business behind the scenes. Your next level is being the face of your brand, speaking at big events and being a guest on podcasts. But you dread speaking and are worried you can’t keep your audience engaged. Joining an organisation like Toastmasters will equip you with the skills you need to master the art of public speaking, so you can grow your business faster.
What skills do you need to learn to go to the next level in your business?
TAKE ACTION NOW:
What skills do you still need to learn or master to achieve your goal?
- Make a list of all the skills you need to learn to accomplish your goal.
- For every skill, come up with a plan of action to master it. Do you need to take an online course? Hire a coach? Practice what you learned in real life?
- Once you have a plan, take action on it.
2. Who Do You Need To Become?
So you’re learning the skill, but you’re not reaching your goals any faster? Let’s go back to the public speaking example to see why this happens. You know that joining Toastmasters will help you become a better public speaker. So why don’t you?
To master a skill, it’s not enough to take a course or hire a coach. You also need to become the person who can put what you’re learning in practice.
You could go to Toastmasters for a year and just look at other people speak on stage. For you to start speaking in front of an audience, you need to develop traits like the courage to get on that stage in the first place, the confidence to own what you’re saying, the boldness to deliver a message that may be controversial, the vulnerability to be ok with making mistakes…
This is why most people never reach their goals. They’re looking for the strategies to reach their goals, but don’t have the courage/confidence/vulnerability/etc to put them in practice.
How do you develop these traits? By doing the things that scare you over and over again, until that confidence or vulnerability becomes your default. It’s just who you are now.
I know, you were hoping for a silver bullet. The truth is, there isn’t one. When push comes to shove, you either do it scared or you stay stuck where you are. Your choice.
TAKE ACTION NOW:
You know what bold move you need to make to reach your goal – and yet you’re not doing it.
- What’s stopping you from making that move?
- What personality trait (think courage, confidence, vulnerability, etc), do you need to develop to make that move?
- What can you do this week to start developing that trait?
3. What Habits Do You Need To Develop?
Learning new skills and developing the personality traits to put them in practice isn’t a one-off. Success happens when you take constant actions towards your goals every single day.
Even when you’re scared. Even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you don’t have time (that’s an excuse, by the way. If you can find the time to watch Netflix, you can find the time to practice public speaking).
How do you do that? Counting on willpower alone doesn’t work. When the time comes to get on that stage, your brain will talk you out of it.
Here’s what works instead: developing habits that support your goals. Maybe it’s carving out 20 minutes in the morning to practice public speaking. Or setting a time each week to do your bookkeeping. Or do small talk with at least one stranger every day.
Do the same thing consistently every day and before you know it, you won’t even think about having to practice public speaking. It just becomes something you do on autopilot, like brushing your teeth.
TAKE ACTION NOW:
Think of the woman who has reached the goal, the woman who has done what you want to achieve:
- What actions does she take every day?
- What’s her morning/evening routine like?
- How does she deal with distractions?
- How does she spend her time?
- How does she deal with the fears that come up as she takes action?
Figure out what actions and tasks you need to do every day to reach your goals and add them to your calendar.
When you start thinking and acting like the woman who already has what you desire to have, you’ll get there a lot sooner.
Wrapping It Up
There’s no such thing as an overnight success. If reaching your goals isn’t happening fast enough, learn new skills, develop the personality traits you need to put them in practice, and adopt habits that’ll help you get there faster.