Why isn’t it happening already?
I’ve always been the impatient kind. It doesn’t matter if I’m starting a new blog, writing a book, or creating a new coaching programme, I want it to be done… yesterday.
It doesn’t help that everywhere I look I see other women living my dreams. They already have 3 NYT best-sellers under their belt while I’m sitting here writing the first draft of my book.
Or they’re creating amazing coaching retreats that sell out in seconds, while I’m still putting the finishing touches to my coaching programme.
What am I doing wrong?!
I know I wouldn’t have these dreams if I didn’t have what it takes to make them come true. But when you’re multi-passionate, accomplishing anything seems to take forever…
If it’s meant to happen, shouldn’t it happen faster?
Making Your Dreams Come True Takes Time
Truth bomb: anything that’s worth doing takes time.
Remember when you were learning to walk, read, ride a bike? It didn’t happen in a day, or one week.
You took your time to learn – without competing with anyone else or feeling like a failure because you hadn’t mastered the skill fast enough.
So, what changed?
Society got you. We’re all conditioned to compete with each other, to do things better and faster than everyone else.
Conditioned to believe that if someone else is successful, you can’t be successful. If someone else is already doing it, you won’t be able to.
It’s a lie.
You know what else is a lie? Other people aren’t getting there faster because they’re better than you. Everyone is on their own journey and doing things in their own time.
Next time you’re feeling like a failure because your dreams aren’t happening fast enough, remember these 3 simple truths:
1. You’re Still Learning
You don’t start off knowing everything.
That 6 figure coach that sold out a $10K retreat in one go? She wasn’t born with the knowledge of how to organize amazing experiences, market them in the right way to the right people, and create programmes that deliver the results her clients crave.
They’re all skills she’s learnt along the way. She took several courses, practiced for years on everyone she met, experimented with different formats, failed a few times…
You just never got to see the ugly bits. No one wants to showcase their failures and mistakes on Instagram.
Now it’s your turn to learn the skills you need to master to turn your dream into a reality. Take that course. Hire that coach. Experiment with new things to see what works.
Approach learning with a child’s mind. Have fun with it. Don’t be afraid to fail. Failures just teach you what doesn’t work, so you can tweak your approach and find something that does.
Don’t rush the process. You won’t be able to do the work you’re meant to do if you lack the key skills to make it a reality.
2. You’re Not Ready Yet
I’ve lost count of how many opportunities I missed because I wasn’t ready for them, yet.
I attended events with coaches and speakers I admired, people who could help me boost my business and send me clients. Yet, I was too scared to even approach them! Worse, when they approached me, I didn’t know what to say to them. I had no elevator speech or collaboration proposal ready! *face palm*
I went to interviews for jobs I desperately wanted, yet I hadn’t done any research on the company or the people who would interview me. No wonder I didn’t get the jobs…
At some point, I wanted to attract brand sponsorship for my beauty blog, yet everything about Beautiful with Brains – from the design to the photography – looked amateurish. Heck, I didn’t even have a media kit.
You know what they say: success is where preparation meets opportunity. If the right opportunity catches you unprepared, nothing will come of it.
Whatever you’re dreaming about, you have to plant the seeds and water them every day. Do the work, learn as much as you can, become the person you want to become and the results will follow.
It won’t happen in a day, but you’ll get there. I promise.
3. Your Habits Determine Your Success
It’s the choices you make today that determine your tomorrow.
If you dream of writing a book, but you’re spending every evening watching Netflix, you’ll never be a published author.
Consistency matters. If you want to make your dreams come true you have to show up and do the work. Every. Single. Day.
Even if you’re scared. Even if you don’t feel like it. Even if you don’t have time. That’s an excuse, by the way.
Maybe you don’t have 1 hour a day to dedicate to writing. Can you do 15 minutes? All those little bits and pieces of time here and there add up overtime and get you closer to your dreams.
Figure out what tasks you need to do every day to reach your goals and add them to your calendar. If it’s not planned, it doesn’t get done. So, plan it. Now.
There’s no such thing as an overnight success. You just have to learn new skills, get ready for when opportunity strikes and show up every single day.
It’ll take longer than you thought. But that’s ok. Your dreams are worth the wait.