Deep down, you know there’s more to life than this.
You’re not meant to be stuck in a cubicle 8 hours a day working on projects that mean nothing to you, spend your evenings watching Netflix while binging on your fave comfort food, and complain to all your friends how much your life sucks.
You want to start your own business. Become a best-selling author. Speak on stage and inspire others with your story.
But something is holding you back.
Your Inner Mean Girl is pulling out all the stops to keep you stuck in your comfort zone.
What if you fail and have to go back to your old job?
What if you go bankrupt and end up homeless?
What if you make a fool of yourself in public and it goes viral on Youtube?
Your Inner Mean Girl knows how to crush your dreams. If you listen to her fears, they’ll never come true.
But how can you not listen when her fears sound so reasonable?
Playing The Positive “What If?” Game
Have you noticed that when you think of doing something new – and especially something you deeply desire, your mind conjures up all kinds of negative “What if” scenarios?
But what about the positive ones?
That’s right. You’re so busy panicking about all the things that could go wrong, you never stop for a moment to think about all the things that could go right.
Your Inner Mean Girl isn’t a fortune teller. She doesn’t know for sure things will go bad. Heck, there’s an equal chance things will go well. Why not think of that?
It’s easy. Every time your Inner Mean Girl starts telling you why something is a bad idea, ask yourself:
“What if I start my own coaching business and I get my first client within a month?”
“What if I write an amazing book proposal and it’s accepted by my fave publisher?”
“What if I give a wellness talk at my local yoga center and it goes so well, I’m asked to return for a second talk?”
It’s not more unrealistic than you ending up under a bridge if you go ahead and start a business. Just saying…
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How The Positive “What If?” Game Helps You Achieve Your Dreams
Fear shuts off your brain.
When you focus on the worst case scenarios, the things you lack, and what could go wrong, your brain is so paralysed, it can’t think straight anymore.
Rather than looking for solutions to overcome these obstacles, your brains just wants to get out of the danger zone fast. And so, you stay stuck.
But when you think of all the things that could go right, something magical happens. All of a sudden, you open up a new world of possibilities you had never thought about.
How would you act if you knew that you could find your first client within a month of opening your coaching business?
What would you do if you knew you could get your book published?
Then, go do it.
And if something doesn’t go according to plan, keep asking yourself the question, “What if I did this to overcome this challenge?”
The goal here is to use your curiosity to get out of fear mode and brainstorm new ideas and ways to make your dreams come true.
Make Positive Curiosity A Habit
Warning: The first time you play the Positive “What If?” game, Your Inner Mean Girl will try to sabotage you.
Your brain is so used to thinking in a negative way and looking for proof that something will go wrong, it gets sceptical when you flip the switch and focus on the positive.
“This can’t really happen…”
“There must be a catch…”
“It’s too good to be true…”
That’s totally normal.
Acknowledge the thought. Thank your Inner Mean Girl for trying to protect you. And then ignore her and keep asking, “What if this will go well?”
The key here is consistency. You’re literally picking up a new habit. The more you do, the quicker it’ll become second nature to you.
That’s when things start to shift. You attract what you think of, remember?
When you focus on the positive things that could happen when you follow your dreams and take action towards them, it’s only a matter of time before they come true.
Try it, if you don’t believe me.
Over to you, now. Play the Positive “What If?” game and then ask yourself, “How would I act if I knew this would 100% come true?” Let me know in the comments below.