I can’t change my mind now.
I had told everyone my dream was to become a freelance writer. I had moved to London to pursue it.
I made it.
I got a few clients who paid me every month to write for their blog and even wrote the occasional article for a magazine.
I hated every second of it.
I wanted to quit, move onto the next career challenge, do something that inspired me.
But how could I quit when I depended on my job to pay the bills? When clients relied on me to keep their blogs going? When everyone would think of me as a flake for changing idea again?
I hang on. Tried everything to make the work more enjoyable. Told myself the passion would come back.
It didn’t. Days went by and that uncomfortable feeling that something was wrong in my life grew stronger and stronger.
I couldn’t take it anymore.
It was the best thing I ever did.
Changing Your Mind Isn’t The Same As Giving Up
Changing your mind comes with a huge dollop of guilt.
You’ve made the wrong choice. Went down the wrong path. Took a wrong turn. If only you had known better, would have been better informed, you wouldn’t have made this mistake.
But did you know then what you know now?
When I dreamed of becoming a freelance writer, all I knew was that I was passionate about writing, wanted to be my own boss and make my own schedule. This seemed like the perfect fit.
I didn’t know then how long it would take to get an article published in a magazine, the many hours I’d spend on admin tasks, and the disappointment over great articles that would never see the light of day.
Was I a failure because I hadn’t anticipated all that? I don’t think so. I couldn’t anticipate what I didn’t know.
Once I realised this career wasn’t for me, I had two options: staying stuck for the rest of my life because of a bad choice I had made, or changing careers and do something that inspired me.
I chose to quit. But I wasn’t giving up on my writing or my dreams. I was just making adjustments along the way.
As you grow and learn new things, your dreams and goals will change with you. The dreams that fired you up back then don’t inspire you anymore.
Change them. Tweak them. Make new ones.
Follow your heart and do what the new you wants to do. You’ll be alright.
P.S. These days, I teach my clients how to try a job on for size, much like you do a dress, before deciding if it’s for them. If you like the idea, you can book your free discovery call here.
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What Would You Gain By Letting Go?
What if you’ve already invested years in your current career and got into a lot of student debt to get your degree?
You’ve committed a lot of time, money and resources to what you thought was your dream. Changing your mind now would mean letting all that hard work go to waste…
But if you don’t do it, your life will go to waste. Do you really want to spend the next 30+ years in the wrong career just because you don’t want to admit to yourself it no longer serves you?
You didn’t make the wrong choice. The old new needed to go through that path, get that degree, work in that position. You were exactly where you needed to be to gain the skills and lessons to help you move to the next level.
That’s what your soul is calling you to do now. Instead of thinking about what you’re “giving up,” think of what you’re about to gain.
How would your life improve if you made that career change? In changing your mind, what do you have to gain?
When I let go of my freelance writing career, I made the space to focus on my coaching business. Now I wake up excited about the day ahead. I feel fulfilled, knowing I’m using my gifts to help people improve their lives.
I would have missed out on all that if I hadn’t had the guts to change my mind.
Make your decisions based on the version of yourself you want to be, not on who you used to be years ago.
You Don’t Have To Explain Your Change Of Mind To Anyone
Are you staying in a career that doesn’t fulfill you because you don’t know how to tell your friends and family you’ve changed your mind about what you want to do with your life?
You don’t owe them an explanation. You don’t have to make them understand your choice.
Just tell them you’ve had a change of heart about your career and that you’d appreciate their support.
But what if they don’t give it to you? Most people will still ask you to explain yourself. Tell you why you’re making a mistake. Make you feel guilty for changing your mind.
Just remind yourself that’s their own personal opinion, the choice they’d make based on their own needs and values. It has nothing to do with you.
You have the right to change your mind as many times as you want. It’s your life. Do what your soul calls you to do.
Over to you, now. When was the last time you had a change of mind? Share your experience in the comments below.