Do you ever feel like one lifetime isn’t enough for all the things you want to do?
There are so many fascinating options out there. You could write books. Become a life coach. Work in a museum. Travel the world as a flight attendant. Teach yoga. Start your own fashion line. Be an artist.
The list goes on and on. Every time you meet someone with a cool job, you wish you could do that, too.
There’s only one problem… Where do you find the time to do all these things?!
Picking one thing – even if it’s something you’ve dreamt of your entire life – means giving up everything else. You can’t do it.
And so you do none of the things that interest you. Instead, you spend your days doing what other people want you to do… and that bores you to death.
Like Barbara Sher says in her book, “Refuse To Choose!”, that’s like starving in the candy store.
Depriving yourself of the things you love – especially when they’re within your reach – is NOT a good way to live your life. So, why are you doing it?
Multi-Passionate Mindset Block #1: Overestimating The Things You Want To Do
Multi-passionates believe they want to do ALL the things and that they’re interested in everything. But, if you’re honest with yourself, there are lots of things you don’t want to do.
I want to write self-help books, start a podcast, host a retreat in Ibiza, learn to ride horses, speak Spanish and French, create my own stationary line, have my own talk show on Youtube, make my own perfumes and skincare products (to name just a few…)…
But, I have NO interest in becoming an engineer, playing any sports professionally, learning to drive a plane, writing romance novels, being a stand-up comedian, the world of video games, and plenty of other things.
The only reason you think you want to do everything is because you’re so excited by the things you want to try that you completely ignore the things that don’t catch your interest. They just pass by under the radar, undetected.
Multi-Passionate Mindset Block #2: Believing You Want To Dive Deep Into Everything
So, you don’t want to do everything. You just want to do a couple (or triple) dozen things. That’s still a lot.
What if I told you you don’t need to dive deep into all of them?
Sure, there are interests you want to dive deep into and study for years. But other times, you just want to learn something, master a skill, uncover the solution to a mystery, solve a problem. And once you’ve done that, you’re ready to move onto the next thing.
For example, I mentioned I’d love to be able to make my own skincare products. But I have no interest in selling them and creating my own skincare brand. I just want to understand how the process works and have the satisfaction to use something I made myself.
But when it comes to starting a podcast or writing a self-help book, you bet I want to go all in.
Are you starting to see how there are only a handful of things you want to dive deep into? And you can do a handful of things in your lifetime.
Multi-Passionate Mindset Block #3: Thinking You Have To Do Everything NOW
Just because you’re passionate about something, it doesn’t mean you have to do it this very minute. You’ve got your entire life ahead of you – that’s a very long time.
The average lifespan for a woman is 80 years. That’s plenty of time for pursuing 4 or 5 passions so deeply, you become an expert in each industry you go into. And, you can fit in a few hobbies here and there, too.
You have more time than you think for all the things you want to do. Don’t waste it doing nothing.
How To Start Doing What You Love When You Don’t Want To Choose Just One Thing
By now, you’re starting to realise that you don’t want to do all the things in depth. You just want to do a few things seriously and dabble in the rest. But, where do you start?
Step 1: Create Your Bucket List
Let’s start making a list of the passions you want to pursue in your life. Grab pen and paper and write down:
- All the things you currently love to do
- All the things you loved to do in the past but have now given up
- All the things you’d love to do in the future (even if just once)
Be as specific as possible. Don’t just say “write books”. What kind of books would you like to write?
Take a couple of days to do this exercise. As you think of something new, add it to the list.
The point of this exercise is to get all your ideas and passions out of your head and into paper, so you can quantify exactly how many things you truly want to do.
If you’re like most multi-passionates I know, you’ll end up having around 50 interests to explore on your bucket list. That’s a lot – but way less than the millions of things you thought you were interested in.
Can you heave a sigh of relief?
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2. Figure Out What You Want To Get Out Of Each Passion
For every item on your bucket list, ask yourself:
- What do you want to get out of this passion?
- What do you really want to know about this topic?
- What would you like to do with this new knowledge/skill?
- How much time would it take you to satisfy your urge?
You’ll be surprised to find out that, most of the time, a simple Google search or reading a few books on the subject would satiate your hunger and leave you free to move to the next passion.
And for the interests you really want to dive deep into, move onto step 3…
3. Find The Common Thread
Now that you know what passions you want to dive deep into, look for common themes. The things that you love the most usually have a lot more in common than you think.
- You love history, psychology, teaching, and entrepreneurship because they allow you to help people fulfill their full potential (that’s me, by the way).
- You love detective stories, doing puzzles, coming up with new designs for everyday objects, and anything engineering because you dig solving problems.
- You love cooking, learning new languages, playing sports, and sewing because they empower you to reach mastery.
- You love working in a restaurant, public speaking, organising events, and coaching because they let you connect with all kinds of people.
Once you understand the common thread that links all your passions together, you don’t have to pursue them separately anymore. You can create a business that incorporates all these elements, so you can do all the things you love right now.
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Wrapping It Up
You have the time to do all the things your heart desires. So stop depriving yourself of your passions. Find that common thread and start doing the things YOU love today.